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7 books every Sacred Seeker and Spiritual Entrepreneur needs to read.

I’ve been getting asked a lot lately about the books I’ve read that have guided my journey and enabled me to have a successful business while going through a profound spiritual awakening and stepping into my Divine Feminine.

It was difficult to narrow it down, but I thought I’d put together this list of 7 books I’d recommend to all spiritual seekers and entrepreneurs.

Here’s my list of 7 books every Sacred Seeker and Spiritual Entrepreneur should read.

As always, love hearing your recommendations too – just leave them in the comments below.

1. What I know for Sure – Oprah Winfrey

I got a signed copy of this book when I met Oprah a few years ago and I read it cover to cover on a flight from Sydney to LA. I didn’t sleep, I read and took notes the whole way and I often quote from it and have been known to read excerpts to my clients when it’s the exact lesson they need.

One of my fav passages from the book is…

“Beginning when we are girls, most of us are taught to deflect praise. We apologize for our accomplishments. We try to level the field with our family and friends by downplaying our brilliance. We settle for the passenger’s seat when we long to drive. That’s why so many of us have been willing to hide our light as adults. Instead of being filled with all the passion and purpose that enable us to offer our best to the world, we empty ourselves in an effort to silence our critics. The truth is that the naysayers in your life can never be fully satisfied. Whether you hide or shine, they’ll always feel threatened because they don’t believe they are enough. So stop paying attention to them. Every time you suppress some part of yourself or allow others to play you small, you are ignoring the owner’s manual your Creator gave you. What I know for sure is this: You are built not to shrink down to less but to blossom into more. To be more splendid. To be more extraordinary. To use every moment to fill yourself up.”


2. Big Magic: Creative Living beyond Fear – Elizabeth Gilbert

I feel in love with Elizabeth Gilbert’s work when Eat, Pray, Love came out in 2006, her search for meaning deeply resonated with me and i’ve followed a similar path through India, Italy and Bali looking for enlightenment and love. So when this book came out I was excited and hoped it was as good, and I wasn’t disappointed. It’s a completely different dive into creativity and really struck a chord.

I think the sign of a fabulous book is remembering where you were when you read it!

And this one was at Easter a few years ago, when I took myself off to a Yoga retreat for a break. I was exhausted and read this over 4 days in between naps, restorative yoga and sound healings. Bliss.

I often recommend this book to anyone in resistance, worrying about haters or feeling a bit of comparisonitis.

One of my fav passages from the book is…

“Recognizing that people’s reactions don’t belong to you is the only sane way to create. If people enjoy what you’ve created, terrific. If people ignore what you’ve created, too bad. If people misunderstand what you’ve created, don’t sweat it. And what if people absolutely hate what you’ve created? What if people attack you with savage vitriol, and insult your intelligence, and malign your motives, and drag your good name through the mud? Just smile sweetly and suggest – as politely as you possibly can – that they go make their own fucking art. Then stubbornly continue making yours.”

3. Mindset by Carol Dweck

I was recommended this book by Brendon Burchard, he just said. Everyone should read it. And that was all. Since then I’ve recommended it to ALL my clients.

It’s not a sexy book, but it hits home and will give you all sorts of AH-has.

This is an absolute must read for anyone who is a bit of a perfectionist or procrastinates or is constantly seeking validation or scared to be wrong by taking a risk!! Anyone?? 😉

I remember reading this (well listening to the audiobook) on a long walk along the coast, and stopping in my tracks as I heard this passage…

“Parents think they can hand children permanent confidence—like a gift—by praising their brains and talent. It doesn’t work, and in fact has the opposite effect. It makes children doubt themselves as soon as anything is hard or anything goes wrong. If parents want to give their children a gift, the best thing they can do is to teach their children to love challenges, be intrigued by mistakes, enjoy effort, and keep on learning. That way, their children don’t have to be slaves of praise. They will have a lifelong way to build and repair their own confidence.”

4. The Untethered Soul by Michael A.Singer

This is a stunning book I listened to while walking around Centennial park in Sydney over a series of crisp early mornings.

I finally understood something profound, that if I was living my soul’s purpose I would be able to access a different level of energy from source that would sustain me not drain me.

A must read for anyone who gets burnt out or lacks trust. Or anyone who isn’t happy or lives in struggle.

A fav quote from the book…

“To get some distance from this, you first need to get some perspective. Walk outside on a clear night and just look up into the sky. You are sitting on a planet spinning around in the middle of absolutely nowhere. Though you can only see a few thousand stars, there are hundreds of billions of stars in our Milky Way Galaxy alone. In fact, it is estimated that there are over a trillion stars in the Spiral Galaxy. And that galaxy would look like one star to us, if we could even see it. You’re just standing on one little ball of dirt and spinning around one of the stars. From that perspective, do you really care what people think about your clothes or your car? Do you really need to feel embarrassed if you forget someone’s name? How can you let these meaningless things cause pain? If you want out, if you want a decent life, you had better not devote your life to avoiding psychological pain. You had better not spend your life worrying about whether people like you or whether your car impresses people. What kind of life is that? It is a life of pain. You may not think that you feel pain that often, but you really do. To spend your life avoiding pain means it’s always right behind you.”

5. Code of the Extraordinary Mind by Vishen Lakhiani

The author Vishen is the founder of Mindvalley, and I have attended the legendary A-Fest twice, i remember reading this book just before my first big live event, and I want back and re-listened to the second half of it three times in a few days. Something about the way he described modern goal setting struck a chord in me. It’s shifted the way I look at things in a profound way.

I recommend this for anyone stuck in cultural conditioning who cares what other people think, and isn’t feeling truly fulfilled on their path and/or just wants to become an even better version of themselves.

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma—which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”

6. You Are a Badass at Making Money: Master the Mindset of Wealth by Jen Sincero

I love this book, she’s spot on with every point. We’re on the same page with our money teachings.

This book is for anyone needing to make some more money or do it in a more joyful way!

“We tend to hold on to resentment because we feel like the nitwit who wronged us doesn’t deserve foreignness. Meanwhile, the only person being punished by your resentment is you. Forgiveness is about you deserving peace, not necessarily about others deserving your forgiveness. You are allowing nasty those of nasty things to take up precious space in your mind. If you love yourself, you’ll end your own torture and let it go.”


7. The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho

A beautiful fable about all the important lessons in life.

It’s a truth bomb a minute! Although the first time i read it I didn’t fully absorb the true meaning, my second time I was blown away that I’d missed so much the first time.

This book has been highly influential on my journey and one of the inspirations for The Flow Alchemist Academy.

One quote from this book just isn’t enough…

“And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.”

“There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.”

“We are travelers on a cosmic journey,stardust,swirling and dancing in the eddies and whirlpools of infinity. Life is eternal. We have stopped for a moment to encounter each other, to meet, to love, to share.This is a precious moment. It is a little parenthesis in eternity.”

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Spiritual adventures with Plant Medicine in Peru…Ayahuasca, San Pedro and Kambo!


[DISCLAIMER None of this information is suggesting that you should try Ayahuasca, Kambo, San Pedro, hape or any other type of plant or sacred medicine, or that I endorse it in ANY WAY or that I think it’s the only way to develop personally or spiritually. It’s risky and dangerous, ESPECIALLY if you just book on the internet, don’t know the Shamans and/or they even call themselves Shamans. My crew wouldn’t trust anyone doing this in the US or even many in Peru itself, some of the Shamans have been bought off and there is some dodgy stuff going on, DON’T work with anyone with less than 10 YEARS experience, I am also not available to make any recommendations as it’s not my place to do so, I am NOT an expert or a Shaman…PLEASE be VERY careful and considerate to the plant and the traditional people!!! All I share is MY journey and MY experience, MY decisions, because I want to be open with you about what’s really going on in MY world, we’re all on our own journeys! X]


It’s Sunday morning and I’m sitting in a cafe in Clovelly, Sydney having brunch and a chai, and wondering how the heck I can sum up what the heck happened in Peru the last 2 weeks (this will be a pretty long post!)…I’m still integrating back into reality and it’s actually much harder than I thought….I feel a bit like i’m on a different planet.

Everything has changed.

Yet nothing has changed….Yet…

I’ve been on another spiritual adventure…and as I wrote that my phone flashed us as 11.11am and it’s the 11th of June! Spooky!

I went to Peru with a group of 20 adventurous entrepreneurs, a little nervous, but with an open heart, ready to embrace whatever happened and surrender into the experience. I knew one person, as i’d met the organizer once…and then randomly bumped a guy I met 2 years ago at a Tony Robbins event…it was kinda funny as the last time I’d actually seen him was 3am, drunk in a Casino…we’ve both had huge spiritual awakenings since then and our priorities have changed big time!! 😉

I met the group in Cusco airport having only just made my connecting flight from LA by running through the airport in San Salvador, spending an interesting 3 hours asleep on a bench in Lima airport and then another 3 hours on a bench in Cusco with my bags wrapped round my arm, as my flight landed at 5.30am and I’m meeting the crew at 9.30am! Oh the glamorous side of this digital nomad adventure!

We all piled into mini buses, where we were accosted by a lady selling Coca leaves for 1 Sol…we welcomed her and stocked up…Coca leaves come from the same plant as Cocaine…there is no drug involved but the locals chew them to help with the effects of altitude and ward off altitude sickness…everything is harder at altitude…just walking up a flight of stairs can feel like a work out and it can even make you nauseous. I remember one time in La Paz, Bolivia, literally getting out of breath just turning over in bed!!! You never know who it’ll effect, often it’s the slimmest, fittest people who suffer the most and and they get even more frustrated at being incapacitated as they’re not used to it. The best cure apart from the coca leaves is copious amounts of water (it’s H2O after all), there was one girl in the back of the van sucking on an Oxygen canister!

Everyone introduced themselves and we set off…2 bus loads of strangers would be getting to know each other VERY well (think deepest darkest fears and insecurities and being at our most vulnerable) in the coming days…they feel closer now than almost anyone else I know…going through something like that together brings you close very quickly!

We arrived in Pisac an hour later, after a quick stop to take some pictures of the view and get an obligatory #alpacaselfie…

Our accomodation was simple, but we were constantly reminded that it was the most luxurious place in town, with hot showers (well some of the time anyway-my first shower ran cold as soon as I put the conditioner in my hair- burr), and very intermittent wifi…if you stood outside near the office!! But i needed a complete break and barely had the energy to take photos never mind think about Instagram!

Our first night, we got introduced to our team of Shamans (who don’t call themselves Shamans, rather Maestros, healers, students of the plants or ceremonialists). Our leader had assembled a dream team of well respected, legitimate, Shamans with between 10 and 40 years of experience, if you EVER decide to give any of this stuff a go I HIGHLY recommend you do your homework and don’t put your soul at risk by working with anyone less qualified or legit. There is a lot of #spiritualtourism going on down there (and all over the world), that’s wrecking the culture and the jungle and you can put yourself if some tricky situations.    

We opened the week and our sacred circle with a Flower ceremony and setting our intentions, a few started to well up already, I knew it was going to be a powerful week…

I was in Peru 10 years ago, I did the whole tour, hiked Machu Picchu, Lake Titicaca, the Amazon jungle, home stay with locals on an island, and although I loved it (except the jungle- I hate bugs and especially spiders) I never thought I’d be back…I’d ‘done Peru’!

I went back to Peru partly out of curiosity, partly a promise, partly to get some clarity, partly a commitment to myself and my clients to become the best version of myself, no matter what it takes! (Oh and partly because my friend saw me during a ‘journey’ she went on two years before and knew she had introduced me to this work…that i’ve been doing for 15 months now!)

I believe it’s my duty to go first, to expand, to let go, to grow, to explore new concepts, to learn, to remember! As I expand my consciousness and my raise my vibration, then everyone around me is lifted higher too.

If I am a leader then I must go first.

One of my fav quotes is ‘you can’t take your clients deeper than you have been able to go yourself’ Rich Litvin.

So I will go to the depths of my soul and the far reaches beyond my comfort zone to be the best leader I can be, and having explored nearly every modality in personal development it was time to remember some Ancient Wisdom and become an even more authentic version of myself.  

If you are a leader, what are you doing to expand and push your comfort zone??  

On the second day, we were told there would be a documentary of our adventure made about Ancient Wisdom in Modern times, although my old hiding tendencies popped up, I knew I had to volunteer, if they needed extra people I was in. As we sat down to film the first part of the interviews it hit me…I had literally put this on my vision board…I wanted to be in the next documentary a bit like Origin, that’s what I’d written, and here i was having effortlessly manifested that exact opportunity…Wow!

They are talking with Netflix and other outlets about it, so we’ll see where it ends up!

I shared my intentions…

To surrender

To let go of anything blocking my health, love or abundance

To get fully into my body

To heal my wounded masculine

To embody my divine feminine

You know… keep it simple for week! 🙂

Intentions are EVERYTHING….

I set an intention for each ceremony…

I set an intention for everything…





Our second ceremony, was the first with any ‘medicine’.

Before I go any further I want to note…I have NEVER (knowingly) done any drugs, never even smoked a cigarette, and only once got high after accidentally eating 2 hash cookies! (I did however drink myself stupid on a weekly basis during my 20s.)

I DID NOT got to Peru to get high. And funnily enough even though some did, I never really did…

And only a few years ago i thought anyone who did any of this was pretty much off their heads and I would have sworn I’d never have done it!

I don’t do any of this for fun. I pretty much hate every minute of it. It’s not fun. It can be beautiful and profound. But it’s generally hard, painful, uncomfortable, scary and takes a heck of a long time, so patience is a huge factor in this world.   This is not a quick or easy fix. I presume there are easier, cheaper more fun ways to do that!!

Hape is a sacred, powerful, profoundly healing tobacco.

Having never smoked a cigarette, this might seem like an odd choice, but if you go to these type of things you have to go ‘ALL IN’, i’d done it a few times before.

Tobacco gets a bad name, what the West has done to it, has made it cancerous and poisonous. But in it’s purest form it is very healing.

It’s best known for opening your heart, re-aligning your chakras, grounding you, releasing any physical or emotional issues, opens up your third eye, removes entities and improves your spiritual connection and intuition.

We all sit in a circle, bundled up in layers as the temperature started to drop…

I’m about 5 people away from the Shaman, she says she’ll do one round, if anyone wants a second or third serving they can have it. I vow to just try and make it through one, and decide that will be just plenty for a first go!

As she gets closer I watch the others be served, she taps the pipe on each shoulder, the top of their heads and heart, and then fills her pipe, tobacco is blown up each nostril one by one and you must do both sides or it will imbalance your brain!

I watch as the ones before me shudder and the tears roll down their faces…their buckets sit at their feet…just in case…why am I here again?

Just one…I can do one…

She gets to me, I take a deep breath and try to relax…I really don’t want to do it…twenty sets of eyes watch me…I really don’t have a choice.

She blows it up one nostril…I shudder…my head feels like it might explode…it tingles and burns- not in a good way…and the last thing I want is more…I have to have more…if i refuse…they would literally hold me down and force it in…so i decide to surrender and not prolong the agony…shhhhhooop…gah…it’s awful…those first few seconds are the worst…she taps my head and I hold my hands on my heart as the tears roll down my face…why am I doing this again? Then a heat and tingle floods my body, all the way to my toes, I feel a profound sense of love for myself, for my body, for being here, for facing my fears, for getting really uncomfortable…

I lie down, exhausted and open my eyes again only to see the girl that went first getting her second serving, gah, people are having more? Shit! I don’t want more. The girl next to me grimaces and says she doesn’t want more either. I close my eyes and check in. Should i have more? I get a yes! Shit!

The girl on my opposite side refuses more and that would actually be the end of her whole journey. She opted out from the rest of week. That’s another story.


Other side…


I am so done…

I lie down again…

I wake up again to see that first girl taking her THIRD dose. Shit.

I close my eyes to check in. No. Phew. I get a No. Amen.

I lie down…

I awake again as the ceremony is coming to a close…

We hug and pull tarot cards…I feel a huge amount of love for everyone,  5 HOURS have passed and our first medicine ceremony is over…patience is a virtue in South America!

We go to eat and swap stories of our first of many experiences,

I slept so well…tomorrow we try the next thing…

As i finish writing this it’s 1.11pm on June 11th…

Are you enjoying the story so far?? Do you think i’m crazy yet? LOL

It’s only Day 3…

My alarm goes off at 5.30am…

We are leaving at 6am and will be fasting until dinner!

I’m apprehensive to say the least. We’ve been told to dress in layers, and bring as much warm clothes and blankets as possible, we’ll be outside all day.

The unknown feels ominous…all i know is we’re going to a mountain to meet Grandfather, San Pedro cactus or Wachuma as it’s also known.

We drive for about 45mins along bumpy roads into the middle of nowhere, we pile out of the mini buses and load up with all our supplies, blankets and firewood, one guy offers to take one of my bags which allows me a free hand, I’m immensely grateful.

We start to walk, we have no idea how far we’re going.

The path starts to get steeper and rockier, I’m sweating already, I’m wearing so many clothes and can’t take anything off as i have nowhere to put it. We stop and gasp for breath, this altitude makes walking so hard. We cross a river and continue on up.

It gets steeper, i’m not in the best shoes, i slip and slide as I scramble up the mountain, and mentally note that getting down without landing on my ass or breaking an ankle will be a challenge, but remember that we’re being protected by Grandfather. I say a silent prayer for all our safety.

We finally (probably only 25mins later) after many stops to catch our breath, come upon a rocky cave with a small ledge (maybe 5ft by 15ft), it looks way too small for all of us to get a seat, 20 of us plus 3 Shamans, and I’m shocked this is our destination, we’re due to be here all day…WTF? I put my bag down in a small corner, with my head half in the cave, I’m convinced it’s full of bats, dust keeps falling on my head and my vertigo makes me feel nauseous,  it’s a pretty sheer drop down…oh God how will I go to the toilet? I decide i’ll hold it all day.

They get all set up and i try and get as comfy as possible. I strip off a bunch of layers and finally allow myself to take in the view, from as far back from the edge as I can…breathe Jo, just breathe.

It’s stunning, we’re in the Sacred Valley, the mountains around us make me feel tiny and insignificant. The light dances and shifts across the valley and I’m awe of where we are.

One of our Shamans starts to beat a drum and sing…she’s announcing our arrival to the spirits and the world below.

Condors soar in the valley below us and the sun beats down. I’m so thirsty, but we’re not allowed to drink for the rest of the day. I say another silent prayer. ‘Please don’t let me die from dehydration or fall off this mountain trying to pee. Please let this journey be gentle.’

The ceremony starts and one by one we go up and kneel before the Shamans, the first guy up is a huge man, he’s an ex stunt man and built like a tank, he’s dressed like he’s ready for battle. (He’s done a recce of the area and given us a safety briefing-just having him there makes me feel safer) they fill what looks like a giant shot glass with a yellowy green liquid, he downs it and they hand him another straight away.

I’m up fourth, kneel before them in the dust and down my glass, just one thankfully. I go back to my little spot and wait until everyone has been served.

Then one by one we each take a spot in the middle of our little ledge share our intentions.

We’re still basically strangers but everyone shares vulnerably, I feel more love and connection to everyone and settle down to see what happens.

I feel nothing, it’s a bit of an anti-climax. I wait…and hour or so passes and nothing.

Then the second round is offered, I look scared and the Shaman asks ‘Are you high?’ No, I reply, she says ‘Second cup for you’. Shit.

Again nothing, but my body betrays me and I need to pee. Ahhh…

Gingerly I stand up, wobble a little and immediately regret it, I tell them where i’m off to and take a few steps down the hill, moments later the giant stunt man is by my side, he’s like a mountain lion and takes my hand and guides me down the mountain to the ‘ladies toilet’ a designated bush (pun intended!) that will protect my dignity. I reemerge a few minutes later and the stunt man is sitting a respectful distance away waiting to help me back up the mountain. I’m relieved and take his hand. He breaks into the Beatles ‘I want to hold your hand’ and delivers me back to the cave. I perch on the edge and take in the scene.

Another lady starts to walk down the hill and the stunt man jumps up and takes her hand.

Then the tears start to roll down my face. I get it. I finally get it.

I am in awe.  In awe of the Divine Masculine. I feel a deep reverence for it.

Grandfather is finally teaching me the lesson I came here for.

Despite teaching about the masculine and feminine in my work, there was still a part of me that needed to heal my relationship to the masculine.

I had been hurt so many times. Taken advantage of so many times. Tried to be someone I wasn’t. I had closed myself off from the masculine to protect myself.

But now I got it. The Divine Masculine literally just wants to be in service to the Divine Feminine. He was there with his gorgeous wife, it was nothing predatory. He literally just wanted to serve and keep us all safe, no woman was going to fall on the way to the toilet on his watch.

I needed to see it in such an obvious way. He was so huge, he could have been terrifying.

But I knew deep down there’s nothing to fear and the Divine Masculine can be pure and loving. He wasn’t just a mountain lion, he had a lion heart. In that moment he represented all men. It was beautiful.   

Those tears started a deep unfurling of emotions and I cried and cried for the next few hours. Other women cried too and we lay on the ground sobbing and holding each other.

As the ceremony closed we again, one by one shared our experiences, everyone was again vulnerable and open, I cried for each person, their pain and releasing was for the collective, men got on their knees and apologised on behalf of all men for the pain they had caused the Divine Feminine, I cried for him, for me, for all of us.

A girl got on her knees and apologised on behalf of the Divine Feminine for emasculating the men, I cried. We all cried.

There was forgiveness and declarations of self love. It was healing. It was beautiful.

We then blessed our water, we shared our water.  

Then the woman sat in a circle around the fruit we had brought. The men surrounded us. We blessed our fruit. We shared our fruit.

We all hugged and one of the Shamans whispered in my ear ‘I feel your liberation coming’. I didn’t know I needed to be liberated, but in that moment I knew he was right- who might I be on the other side?

Feeling exhausted, content and still slightly high, we slowly made our way back down the mountain just before night fall.

Our mini bus made it’s way back to our accommodation, dodging sheep and pigs and stray dogs.

Once back was sat round a campfire and were offered another round of hape. I checked in and despite feeling super fragile, I got a yes. Shit.

As I sat in front of her, I asked her to be gentle, she said she’d serve me like a 9 year old. I’m like, ‘they do this to children!??”

I sat on the grass and allowed the hape to flow through me. An incident from when I was 9 years old that I hadn’t thought of in years came to mind, I threw up, it needed to be processed and healed, I sent love to 9 year old Jo.

Exhausted and emotional I went to bed, a little anxious about the next day.

Meeting Mother

So by now you might have guessed I’m not just in Peru to take Hape and San Pedro!!

Today is the day, we’re going to meet Mother. Mother Ayahuasca.

I’m scared. You can feel the nervous energy in the group.

So far what we’ve done has been pretty mild. Non-hallucinogenic. And that’s my biggest concern. I’ve heard the horror stories and feel a bit nauseous all day.

In the afternoon, we attend an introduction and initiation ceremony with the Shamans and more plants. It’s a talk on what to expect, how to handle things, and a reminder to maintain ‘noble silence’ throughout the ceremony, to allow everyone to be in their own journeys.

We’re given 4 top tips;

*Remember it’s all from love.

*If you think you’re dying, don’t fight it, let it happen.

*If you hear a voice telling you to go to the toilet, even if you don’t need- just go!

*It will pass and the morning will come.


This advice strangely makes me feel much better.

We have a couple of hours off to relax and set our intentions, I land on ‘love, wisdom and clarity’ and repeat these words over and over…

We skip dinner and rendezvous at 8pm to again board the mini- buses. We’ve been told it’s happening in an outdoor temple, to bring warm stuff. We’ll be outside all night. It’s June and this is winter in Peru, temperatures are due to drop to zero overnight. Despite being from Scotland, I don’t do well in the cold, I think my blood has thinned from 13+ years living in warmer climates. I’m almost more concerned about freezing all night than the medicine! Several of the worst moments of my life involved being very, very cold for long periods of time.

We travel for about 30mins in the dark along more bumpy roads, there’s a quiet uneasiness in the group, everyone in contemplation of the journey to come. All of my worst moments are running through my head, trying to preempt how bad it could be.

I could have stayed on that bus all night, I didn’t want to arrive, be we did, piling out of the buses with blankets, pillows, wooly hats, thick alpaca ponchos and our buckets.

We walked through the pitch dark, down to the temple. It was a round concrete structure, with a wooden struted canvas roof, open door, and window and a mud floor, The roof had a hole in the middle to allow for a fire in the centre. We each claimed our spots round the edge and I was excited to be met by a reed mat and a long thin piece of foam that acted as a mattress. We also make ourselves acquainted with the ‘dry’ toilets out the back. We’re told this is luxury for a ceremony!!  I’m already freezing.

We get as comfy as possible and sit in the pitch dark waiting for it to start. It becomes more obvious why we’ve been told to wear white, as you can barely see people in the darkness. I’m in black. Doh.

I just about make out a shadow in the darkness…it’s the Shaman making his way round the circle with the Aya. He gets to me and I take the cup and it’s only half a mouthful, I’m grateful for the small serving-but really have nothing to compare it to. I lie under the covers and wait for it to kick in. It will be around 45mins to an hour i’m told.

It’s cold, so cold. I lie in the dark silence…waiting…

After what feels like ages I hear some groaning and someone throwing up…and then some more…I keep waiting…

There’s a loud buzzing in my ears…I jump…then nothing…

A while later I jump again, this time there’s a red light spinning and a siren sounding next to my ear…it’s like an ambulance …waaa….waaa…then this heavy energy, like a steel sheet starts to descend on my whole body, it’s starting to squish me and compress the air out of me…

‘I must be dying’ I think…I’m ridgid…my body turns to cement…I can’t escape even if I want to and I hear the words of warning…’If you think you’re dying, let it happen’. I say ‘let it go, let it go’ over and over and eventually it ends…

I lie waiting for the next installment…expecting it any moment…

When it starts, I’ll sit up…

I listen to the Shamans singing their ancient songs.

I open my eyes and for a moment I wonder if I’m outside, I can see the whole sky. No roof. And a voice tells me… ‘The stars are always there you just don’t chose to see them.’

And the next thing I know I hear a flute and it’s morning.

WTF, was that it? I’m kind of relieved and annoyed at myself for not going and getting a second cup, but I didn’t realise the time. Apart from the dying there was nothing profound. Just cold.

We make our way back to accommodation and everyone is in a stunned silence.

Once back we convene on the grass to get out plant shower. A bucket of freezing cold water infused with plants and flowers, we are to pour it over our heads in the shower. They announce we won’t be having any breakfast today (to respect the flowers), there’s an audible groan. We hadn’t eaten since yesterday lunch time.

After our showers, we met back on the grass for integration and to share our experiences from the night before.

I vow to go for it the next time…luckily we have 3 sittings…


Aya #2

When they first presented the schedule each day was pretty choca block, ceremonies, talks, excursions, workshops, etc…and the Aya happens overnight, outside (did I mention it’s Winter in Peru and we’re in the mountains at altitude?) …I was like when are we going to sleep? A very Western question! The answer, whenever you can find a moment in between activities! The reality, hardly at all! And I funnily enough I didn’t really feel like it after our first journey. We had a pretty chilled day and explored the local market and I booked in a massage for after dinner. I slept like a log after that.

The following evening was Aya #2, we had a talk on it all in the morning and some time to journal and set intentions in the afternoon, followed by a beautiful sound healing by some local guys to get us into a good space for the coming journey.

We gathered again around 8pm, this time the feeling was a little lighter, we knew where we were going (the outdoor temple) and roughly what to expect (in terms of set-up and how it worked anyway- you NEVER know what Mother will dish up for you, it’s different every time!), plus it was a cloudy day, so it was a few degrees warmer and I was more prepared. I had 3 pairs of leggings on, 7 layers on top and a new white poncho! Yay!

I was determined this night not to waste the opportunity (i’d been oscillating between beating myself up for only having had one cup on the first ceremony, and trusting that it’s all perfect and Mother knows best!)…so I decided i wasn’t going to lie down at all and I was going to have as much as I could. Warrior Jo was ready!

I also have a great spot in the temple, far away from the door but near the Shamans, so I won’t miss any of the action- or opportunity for more Aya!

It’s pitch dark again and this time the Shamans call us up in groups of 5, this time instead of a big cup, it’s shot glasses, but these are no ordinary shot glasses, they have been soldered with some sort of metal, and don’t even think about getting weird about sharing cups with people, there is no space for Princesses…or basic hygiene concerns…I say a silent prayer to Mother as I know one girl thought she had a cold sore coming on!  We have bigger things to worry about!

After I drink, I go and sit up to wait, it feels like everyone has made the same decision, no one is lying down tonight.

We sit in the dark…waiting, contemplating, meditating…

I was the 2nd last to drink, so when I hear the movements and groans starting i know mine probably isn’t far off…

I wait..

The girl next to me starts to burp…she sets me off…although we’re in Noble silence (no chatting) we acknowledge our synchronised burping!

Since getting deeper into energy work in the higher dimensions, working with Goddess energy, sacred medicines and the Akashic Records my body has been processing energy by burping (ugg!), deep extreme yawning, coughing, crying…and if it’s really bad deep purging…and it’s not just mine…I seem to process the collective pain, my clients and whatever is going on in room. This is something I’m also working on to release, especially if it’s not my responsibility to do so… as an empath this has been a huge part of my coaching journey, learning how to protect myself but the medicine adds a different dimension.

One of the interesting things about Aya, and the group you do it with, are the synchronicities that occur and the collective processing, we weren’t just healing ourselves, but each other and the planet!

And then It comes, almost from nowhere, the purging starts…

I can’t quite explain the taste of Aya, it’s nothing I’ve tasted before, but curiously I could taste it days after in another ceremony…it’s earthy, bitter, a little like wheatgrass but way worse…and when it was coming back up, it felt a bit like the worst hangover in the world, like i’d been doing shots of different liquors all night! But I was stone cold sober.

During the purge, and all night really, I felt pretty neutral, not emotional at all. And almost clear thinking…I decided to get up and have a pee…and empty my bucket…

When I emerged I could see another figure, standing looking at the sky. The temple was surrounded by the most majestic mountains in the Sacred Valley, and I could see these clouds as shining bright green behind them, almost like what i’d imagine the Northern lights to look like, I was awe struck by the beauty, I stood still trying to process where I was and what i was seeing… (the following morning I asked the guy i’d seen if he thought the sky had been green- he said no- that must have been the psychedelic effect!)

I walk back to the temple door, take a deep breath and walk back into the darkness and straight up to get another cup. I kneel in the mud in the dark and wait until they’re ready (the Shipibos are singing their songs to individuals and to Mother to help in their journeys) . He comes over and prays over my cup/shot glass, I down it and go back to my spot.

More burping…

Then it comes  again…the purging ….the girl next to me is doing the same…I feel a deep connection with her…

In between the purges I start to see shapes, they’re neon, rainbow outlines of Sacred symbols against the black sky, a bit like the Nazca lines, plus feathers, birds, people, and when I close my eyes it’s almost kaleidoscopic, swirls and patterns coming in and out, it makes me feel nauseous and I purge again…

When I’m done I decide to repeat my little journey, pee, empty bucket, (this time it’s much darker, it’s brown, the first was kinda yellow, and from my work in Kambo I know the darker it gets the deeper you’re clearing, our emotions, stories and memories are not in our mind but rather deep in our bodies, in the cells…whatever I let go of was deep even though I have no idea what it was!) stare at the stunning sky, take a deep breath and go in for my 3rd cup.

I kneel in the dark and wait…this time there’s a moment of light, they spark a lighter to fill the shot glass without spilling it, I see him in deep prayer over my cup, this time it’s longer, I down it and go back to my spot…

The girl next to me is now curled in a ball and on the other side the girl is having a huge night, she’s been sitting rocking and the Shaman is singing to her and cupping her head. I find out later she was birthing the cosmos from her yoni!

It starts again…my head hardly leaves my bucket, it’s a pretty small bucket and the circumference is probably the same as my head, as I purge I get the strangest sensation that I’m far out of my body, I’m on the edge of space, looking in, and that my bucket is endless, bottomless and i’m observing the whole cosmos from this place. I literally don’t want to take my head out the bucket. (!?)

The Shaman is doing his rounds, he comes to me, blows his plant liquid concoction (something special to them-they work on long dietas with different plants to become at one with the spirit of the plant, e.g. a YEAR of strict dieting, working with plants, mediating and ONLY talking to their Master!!!) on my head, taps my head, and pours a liquid in my hands, I think thisone is Agua de Florida (A cologne used in South America by shamans for cleansing, healing, ritual feeding and flowering.) I love the smell and effect so much I now have my own and use it daily, i actually think i’ll give up perfume completely!

Another Shaman comes round blowing sacred, clearing tobacco smoke in my face. Many smoke the Mapachos, little cigarettes, but i cough way too much so decide not to.

The purging finally ends…this bucket is pretty much black…I get a weird satisfaction from this knowing the releasing was very deep and most likely past life stuff.  

Once the main journeying has finished (for safety reasons) tonight they light a fire in the temple, it’s a welcome sight and ushers in the morning light. I sit up, I still haven’t slept I don’t want to, I watch the flames, mesmerized, and realised that fire isn’t ‘angry or raging’ like it so often gets tarred with, it’s beautiful, warm and just doing exactly as it’s supposed to and just needs a huge amount of respect.

My next realisation, I was still journeying, is that I was a Druid, the scene feels ancient, people sitting in a circle around a fire, cloaked in blankets and ponchos (not a North Face micro fleece or puffy jacket in sight!) it’s so familiar, I have a realisation I’m remembering. Remembering my past life, my ancestry. In January in another ceremony, while working with Merlin, I had the same message and I have been called to revisit sacred stone circles- I will know which ones to go to and here I will receive the download that will be my life’s work. I had no idea he was, according to wiki, probably the last druid, a Celtic Shaman, living in southern Scotland. This will be a whole other adventure and a trip home next year- if you haven’t heard me talk you might not know I’m Scottish!!

As morning dawns, we get up and instead of piling back in the mini-buses, we have a simple breakfast outside by the fire, swap our experiences, integrate and start to work on the land. To give back to the land and owner of the temple and property, we help to clear some land to create a flowerbed and plant a tree. It’s very grounding in every sense of the word.

Forever changed we venture back to our accommodation.

Meet Froggie

The day after the night before we have a reprieve on the intense work and have a day trip to visit some sacred sites, Moray, the original Incan GMO site, where they tested crops (mainly corn) to make them optimal, and then distribute throughout the Incan empire. Next stop was the salt pools and then the best lunch I’ve possibly ever had, after a month of a fairly bland diet and restriction it was the best thing ever!

When we got back I skipped dinner and opted for a seriously early night, I had signed up a seriously early start, my alarm was set for 5.15am. When we arrived in Peru, we got a surprise option of a Kambo ceremony. Kambo is a tree frog poison and the main medicine I’d been working with for the previous 15 months, it one of the things I attribute to my accelerated spiritual awakening. However,  I will give the same DISCLAIMER as I did for Aya. I DO NOT suggest or endorse this medicine. It was introduced to me in a very organic way by a friend and it tends to find you if you’re ready for it.  It’s not fun or easy and again you need to be very careful who you chose to do it with, if you do. It can be dangerous if not respected and worked with in a safe way with an experienced Shaman. It’s actually thought of by some to be more intense than Aya, and many will avoid it altogether. It’s not for the faint hearted. And you should avoid it and Aya, if you do have any heart conditions.

That said it’s an intensely healing, strongly detoxifying, immune boosting medicine. It’s been an honour to have been working with and learning from my Shaman and have been assisting in ceremony with it.

This ceremony has been limited to just 10 of us, we have our last Aya ceremony tonight, doing both in one day is HUGE by any standards, but I really want to experience it with a different server, and we’ve been told the two medicines are really complementary, and doing Kambo will help us in our last Aya journey, I’m all in for this trip and just accept it will be a huge day.

We set off at 6am for the temple again (about 30 mins away), it feels weird to know I will be back again in only a few hours…

Most of the crew are Kambo virgins, just me and one other girl have journeyed with it before, there are some serious nerves going on. I share some of my experience, and the words of wisdom that helped me with my journeys.

We set up camp on half of the temple and our Shaman explains the process and assigns us the order we’ll go in and the amount of dots we’ll each receive. First time men always get their dots on their left shoulder area near their hearts, and women on the left or right ankle, so it travels past and clears our lower chakras. You get fewer dots on your first time to see how you react to the medicine. As you get more used to it the dose can increase and you can begin to have targeted treatments. I’ve had them all over my body, from ankles to centre of my chest, ears and all the way up my back at each chakra. It’s obviously not a competition to see how many dots you can get, but I do get some funny looks and questions from masseurs and when getting a pedicure. Now i can spot other Kambo kids in public, it feels a bit like a tribal marking and a rite of passage! I’ve been told I’m going through an initiation of sorts!

The Shaman asks how many dots I’ve had before and where I want them today.  I’ve done up to 9 dots before and tune into see where I need them, I’ve always done left ankle and only had one dot on my right before, considering that, and how effing cold it is, I don’t want to strip off and sit in my bra for the next 3 hours, I opt to roll up my trouser leg and stay warm.  She tells me i’ll have 7 dots. Considering we have Aya tonight, that feels like PLENTY and I trust her judgement completely.

We start..with no #1, Kambo is delivered very differently to Aya, first you have to quickly down 2-3 litres of water in like 2-3mins just before it’s administered. It’s horrible as you feel full, a bit sick and like you’ll gag if you have another sip, but it’s an important part of the process (during ceremony you have to drink a bit more, but there’s a limit, definately no more than 3.5-4 litres, especially if you aren’t purging it up fully- this is the riskiest part as you have to be careful not to drown yourself!! It’s generally totally fine, just follow the directions of your Shaman, just part of my disclaimer! You can’t OD from Kambo as your body has a shut off point when you reach your limit.

To have it administered you sit before the Shaman and they take the end of an incense stick and burn off small dots of skin, I know I’ve probably lost most of you here…if you don’t already think I’m positively insane already! It doesn’t hurt too much, it stings and you might wince a bit, but if you’ve ever had a bikini wax this is nothing! 😉  They then apply little tiny dots of Kambo, smaller than a pea to the exposed skin…

The first few people are starting to feel the effects and everyone is expected to do some major purging (It can happen from either end!), to get rid of all that water, plus whatever cleansing; physical, emotional or Spiritual that needs to happen.

One of the girls before me gets up to go to the bathroom, we all know we’re not to go alone (just in case you faint, fall and hit your head) but you’re not always thinking in the middle of it and she makes a bid for the door, I jump up and take her arm, I wait for her as she purges and give her water, then help her back into the room, and sit with her as she continues to purge and handing her tissues and water as required. Taking care of her feels good, being in service, plus it takes your mind off your own upcoming journey. As she’s coming out of it, another girl is starting, I sit with her until it’s time for my own journey…

I start to drink my water and already feel ready to purge.

This time as the Shaman creates the dots they were deeper and bigger than any i’ve had before, she accidentally gives me 8 dots not 7, and says, ‘oh looks like you’re supposed to have 8’, I internally wince but trust the process, she applies 8 and then the last one falls off…I’m only supposed to have 7! Phew!

I retake my seat and grab my bucket, from experience i’m quick to process it, some people take ages, the heat runs up from my leg to my head, it feels like your face, head and lips are swelling (because they are- and it can looks like you’re had lip injections for up to 2 days!), it can also feel hard to breathe and if you’re not warned you think your throat will swell and close, the best (and really only) option is to fully centre yourself and breathe, knowing the horrible sensation will pass, panicking won’t help…I do what I usually do at this moment and ask myself what the fcuk i’m doing here and vow to never do it again-this time I mean it!

…it takes a little longer than normal, and i’m willing the purge to come…this moment always signals to me the end will come… Viva…it starts…I purge and purge, I’m sweating, I strip off some layers, I feel like I need to use the bathroom, so i get supported outside, luckily it’s a false alarm, i take some time and come back in…my small bucket can’t handle the volume so i transfer to a second one…someone comes up and blows a huge amount of sage smoke in my face…I purge again…it seems longer and more intense than i can ever remember, uggh…please let it be over…

It finally feels safe to lie down, but for the first time ever I’m overtaken by an intense itching all over my body…I wonder if it’s an allergic reaction, I’ve never seen it happen before (I ask after and it’s not that unusual!) it’s so annoying and i wonder again why I am doing this!?

The rest go after me and one by one come out of it, one poor guy has a really rough time and just can’t purge, the Shaman gives him 2 lots of hape (very strong doses of tobacco up the nose to facilitate purges- it’s worse than normal as it has to be so strong- this happened to me twice before- you want to die) and then even more dots of Kambo…he was put through the ringer.

We start to pack up, i decide to visit the bathroom again but only make it outside, I feel really dizzy and have to sit down in the pathway until it passes…I feel so weak, It takes all the energy i can muster to get back up and gather my stuff and get back up the hill to the bus, a girl takes me arm and guides me up. I’ve never felt so weak or vulnerable. Someone hands me a tiny piece of stale bread, it tastes like the best thing I’ve had in ages, oh the simple things in life!

We get back to our accommodation for lunch, I’m in another world, we all are, I can hardly eat but I know this is my only opportunity before the last Aya tonight as we never have dinner before the ceremony, and I need the strength.

Aya #3

It’s already been a long day…

After lunch I lie on the grass in the sun for an hour on my own in a vain attempt to process what the heck just happened and then head to bed where I stay until about 9pm, I manage a hot shower and try and gather all my will to just get on the bus. Tonight we’re starting late and the buses take off at 10pm. A few people comment on how well I look, I assume it’s the froggie facelift in effect as I feel like sh!t and very fragile!

This is it, last time at the temple, it feels weird, glad it’s almost over but already knowing I’ll miss it, i know that sounds insane, especially if you’re read the rest of this post, but there’s obviously a reason people keep going back time and again!!  And there’s a certain bonding that happens after you go through experiences like this with people- nobody else could quite understand.

I had ‘baggsied’ probably a Scottish way of saying reserved or ‘shotgunned’ my spot by leaving half my gear/blankets etc in the temple after Kambo, partly because i didn’t have the strength to take it back and partly because there wasn’t much point and it was a good place near the Shamans again.. But someone wanted my spot so he could sit next to his mate and I let him have it, my plan foiled. A little pissed off but trusting there was a good reason for it, I found a spot, unfortunately it was near the door and tonight was the coldest of all, but it was next to my burping buddy, and we were in for another night of synchronised burping and purging, I’m supposed to be sitting here.

I’m super layered up again, but it feels like I could have on 20 layers and still be cold tonight, plus maybe because I’m so tired and feeling so fragile it makes me less able to cope, in general.

I decide i’ll do as much as I can, it’s my last chance.

This time we go up to the Shamans individually, I wonder why it’s different each time, but I assume there’s higher purpose.

This time it’s a different style of glass, this is like a double shot glass. Umm… ok…

I down it and take my seat.

I sit up waiting…

What will tonight bring? I’ve heard stories of others having their whole lives flashing before their eyes, past lives, crazy journeys and I kind of feel I’ve missed all that, it’s been intense physically but not necessarily emotionally…

The purging starts, it’s more intense than the previous two nights, I cling to my bucket. It feels like the edge of the universe again, a nice comfort and at least one benefit of putting myself through this.

It’s so cold. My bones feel the chill.

More purging…

I think it’s finally over, ok I’ve got to take another cup, i did 3 last time after all, I consider it. No one else seems to be going up like last time. I decide to lie down for a quick break and to regroup some strength.  Then I’ll get one for sure.

I lie down and the journeying begins… it feels a bit like a roller coaster, falling in and out of visions, but i feel neutral, no emotions. I vaguely remember thinking ‘oh yeah, that makes sense’ and getting some ‘ah has’ but i basically have NO idea or memory of anything, except one flash of a baby in a high chair (i wasn’t not sure if it was me or my ‘future’ baby) and it went on for hours…

I didn’t sleep, but the next thing I knew was a Shaman shaking me telling me i need to get up. I have no energy or will to move from my spot, even though i’m still cold.

I can still hear someone purging and wonder how many glasses they must have had, grateful that at least it’s not me.

The first bus has gone already, but i’m not ready or able to leave just yet.

We sit round the fire in silence, taking it all in and saying goodbye to the stunning mountains.  

A few people are still out of it, I ask how many cups they had, just one, i’m told, I can’t quite wrap my head around that, but then I’m told, that especially after the Kambo, the Shamans gave us one strong dose and set the intention that we’d all just need one cup that night. Ahh phew, I feel better and stop judging myself for my lack of medicine taking.  Clearly all my self judgement hasn’t completely disappeared! I still have more work to do!

Back at the ranch, we’re all moving very slowly, but my appetite is back and there seems like nothing better than bread, eggs, avocado and tomato. It’s again the best thing I’ve ever had. I’m glad to be appreciating the simple things in life.

We have a special guest coming to the retreat this morning to help us integrate, only about 8 of us show up, the rest are in bed, but he’s a Master and been doing this work for 40 years, I don’t want to miss it or be rude and no one shows up, he’s talking in Spanish and they’re translating, I’m mortified but I can’t stay awake, my head starts to nod and there’s nothing i can do, I’m fighting it hard, it’s such a small circle. Ahh…then the guy opposite starts the head nod too and then another girl and another…two people walk out…we’re all falling asleep on this guy…I pretty much miss the second hour, but buy his book as an apology, and to catch up on what i missed.

As exhausted as I am, I have my eye on some things in the markets and decide to go on one last trip before we leave the next day.   

Cusco, Integration & Learnings

We wrap up the retreat with way too many goodbyes, it’s felt like forever, but also way too short. I haven’t really been online in 10 days and and it think that helped!

We take a shuttle to Cusco, it’s been 10 years since my last visit, but I’m impressed how well i remember it, the Sacsayhuaman or ‘sexy woman’ ruins, the square etc… nothing has changed, except a Starbucks and KFC in the main square!!  But i had forgotten how big it is, we’ve been in Pisac with a population of 10,000, and Cusco has almost 1/2 million and is by far the biggest city in the Sacred Valley.

I get settled into my hotel and go for a quick explore, I find more markets…with the funkiest shoes, I didn’t see them in Pisac, so I got me a pair of patterned Andean hi-tops (i’m wearing them right now), a smaller pair and some suede boots, I’m obsessed, I’ve never seen anything like them, i literally left my old boots in the shop.

I’ve arranged to meet some of the girls from retreat for dinner and a few other friends who’re in town for dinner, they’re struggling with altitude sickness so only just make it.

As one of them said ‘Cusco is popping’ it’s so busy, full of well heeled tourists, mainly a fair bit older, and a younger scruffy crowd. I briefly wonder if I could actually live here.

I’m up again at 5am, this time, for my flight, mixed feelings, ready to get back to reality but dreading it at the same time.

30 hours later I arrive back in Sydney, I’m determined to stay up all day to try and skip jet lag, i go out for brekkie in Bondi with my friend that picked me up from the airport, then we have a second brekkie, then go for green juice, then a burrito…lol…a full day culinary tour of Sydney’s Eastern Suburbs…I’m full but it’s nice to be back and eating normal food again.

Staying up all day does me no good and I’m wide awake at 2.30am for the next 5 days!

I was feeling kind of weird all week, struggling to concentrate and work. Resisting my emails and messages although i knew I needed to get through them. It all felt kind of unimportant and banal after what i’d been through. I also was feeling super ungrounded, flying can do that to you, never mind 10 days of ‘sacred medicine’.

The latest sensation has been feeling like a bit of an alien in my body and trying to leave it…but i actually think the opposite is true (and so my mentor tells me) I’m probably feeling ultra human and reintegrating into my body. It’s just new and I’m not used to it.

The other thing that was happening was that I was feeling a bit lost, I had gone to Peru, expecting a lightening bolt of inspiration and clarity to strike. To show me my life’s work and ultimate truth, to face every fear and be completely healed of all issues and blocks I had, to know exactly what the rest of my year will look like. I had HUGE expectations of Peru and Aya.

I realised I had been waiting for months for this trip, putting off decisions, expecting everything to change and not even allowing myself to sit and think, i thought it was a waste of time because I was expecting it to give me all the answers. Respecting the medicine is super important, but I had given my power away to it…

Hahaha…oh the naivety!

You don’t get it if you put that kind of expectation on something. I felt like I was in the same place as I’d started and I was kind of frustrated! But that was the whole point!

I had something else to learn. If you try and get too much from something, sometimes you get nothing-until you get the learning that is.  

I had to take my power and responsibility back.

The ONLY place I can get all the answers is within. I have all the answers already.

It would be like working with a coach for 3 months and expecting to be given all the answers and your direction and be completely healed for life and have no more issues to work on ever! Haha. (that’s unrealistic BTW!)

Funnily enough since this ah-ha, I’ve gotten more clarity and breakthroughs than I did the whole trip!

I’ve already decided i’ll be doing more Aya in the next few months, an opportunity has come up that will only take a little tweaking of my plans to make, but I’ll be going into it with NO expectations, intentions sure, but I won’t put my life on hold for the next two months waiting for a magical download of clarity or direction. I know I’m on track already. I need to stop doubting myself and just go for it. Fully.

And like I tell my clients, it will always evolve we just have to roll with it.

The adventures will continue, but the Peru chapter has closed for now, by the time you read this I’ll be in Thailand…

To be continued…

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(Note: We help female entrepreneurs bust through their blocks and upper limits to create a BIG impact, biz and life they love, through personal and spiritual development,  Via group programs, live events,  Masterminds and very limited 1:1 coaching. We are not Shamans and/or Sacred plant advisers.)

BIG Love,

Jo x


[DISCLAIMER None of this information is suggesting that you should try Ayahuasca, Kambo, San Pedro, hape or any other type of plant medicine, or that I endorse it in ANY WAY or that I think it’s the only way to develop personally or spiritually. It’s risky and dangerous, ESPECIALLY if you just book on the internet, don’t know the Shamans and/or they even call themselves Shamans. My crew wouldn’t trust anyone doing this in the US or even many in Peru itself, some of the Shamans have been bought off and there is some dodgy stuff going on, DON’T work with anyone with less than 10 YEARS experience, I am also not available to make any recommendations as it’s not my place to do so, I am NOT an expert or a Shaman…PLEASE be VERY careful and considerate to the plant and the traditional people!!! All I share is MY journey and MY experience, MY decisions, because I want to be open with you about what’s really going on in MY world, we’re all on our own journeys! Xx]

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Struggling to find clarity?? The one question you need to ask yourself…

Happy Monday!

I have worked with many female entrepreneurs worldwide, one of the things I hear most is…

If I could just get clarity on…. my target market/offerings/niche/zone of genius… I would ….start my business/ launch my next program/ finish my website/quit my job….’

You get the picture, lack of clarity is touted as an excuse for not moving forward in business more often than almost anything else I hear. I’ve seen women use this an excuse for spinning their wheels for years!!!

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But It’s a nice soft way to sabotage yourself, it’s not as harsh as the truth; I’m procrastinating, I’m lazy, I’m scared, I’m in denial, I’m not really committed, I’m scared of what people will think, I’m terrified of failure or even success…

I believe clarity is within, but it is usually hiding behind fear. Fear underpins everything, it’s the No. 1 Money Block I see all the time.

But there’s good news, once you get past the fear, the clarity comes…ask yourself; If I did actually get clarity what might happen? I guarantee if you’re really honest the answers are not all positive…figuring that out and neutralizing it is the secret.

The other really cool trick is….just start something…it sounds ridiculously simple but you will very quickly get clarity from doing…that dream you had, it might not be as much fun if you actually try it, this is amazing as it stops you fantasizing about it for any longer than is really necessary. If i hadn’t just started and started out as a Health Coach originally, I would never be doing what I do now. I needed that experience and that learning to lead me to the business I currently have. Often people don’t start as they are afraid they aren’t as good as they hope they might be, they might actually discover the truth…but flip it, trying something and it doesn’t work out, is not failure but simply learning and speeding up your process so you can find your zone of genius, very often taking those first steps will lead you to exactly where you need to be. Go for it!

I love helping my clients figure out what that exact thing is that’s blocking the clarity (then getting rid of it for good!) and helping them get the confidence to move forward no matter what.

I have space to bring on 3 more 1:1 clients in April before my packages change and my prices go up, will you one of them?

If this even makes you wonder what you could achieve with a coach, then it’s time to book in for a free chat and get all your questions answered! I promise it’s much easier than you think and I make it as much fun as possible. 🙂

Big love,

Jo x


Have you fully let go of 2015?



Happy New Year!!!! Wow it’s the 4th of January already! Today I kicked off day Day 1 of the Abundance & Money Mindset challenge, and it was awesome, I danced and sang and even welled up a bit, because if your ‘WHY doesn’t make you CRY it’s not your WHY! ‘You can still join us here but that’s not what I’m talking about today!

I did mention on the scope that letting go of 2015 is key before you truly get fully stuck into 2016, and I had to do it too.

2015 was a an incredible year full of amazing events that way surpassed even my BIG expectations, the highs were higher than i’d ever experienced but it also delivered up a lot of lows and I was lower than I’d ever been too, there was lots of pain, fear, struggles and resistance I had to work through. But also lots of fun, but I have always been one for marching on, getting stuff done and dealing with it later, but now i know that’s not the answer!

Part of being what I’ve being called as the year I was cracked open, has truly let me feel again, and get connected with who I truly am…and open up even bigger to receive in 2016!

The Highs;

  • Being featured in the Divine Living Magazine
  • Getting the one of only 5 Divine living #newnormal Awards and being on stage as a panel expert, twice!
  • Speaking at the Institute for Integrative Nutrition conference, and being on their expert panel!
  • Meeting some amazing new friends! (you know who you are!)
  • Working with some incredible clients, and getting goose bumps as they let stuff go, and now watching their businesses soar!
  • Working with Tony Robbins
  • Co-authoring a book with Jim Lutes & Jim Britt (Tony Robbins original mentor and Jim Rohn’s business partner)
  • Becoming a Master NLP Practitioner
  • Working with an amazing coach and mentor
  • Having an awesome Mastermind buddy
  • Traveling to Paris, LA, San Diego, Florence, Rome, the UK and all over Australia
  • 3 photoshoots, which required loads of shopping and feeling like a celebrity for the day!
  • Launched my first online course!
  • Staying in the most epic house in Paris and throwing a champagne party!
  • Filming my first video series
  • Being interviewed on various Podcasts and online Summits
  • Becoming an Australian citizen and celebrating with bubbles and lots of laughs
  • Riding round Florence on the back of cute Italian guys Vespa! 🙂
  • Meeting Marianne Williamson
  • and finally meeting Oprah!


The Lows and lessons learned;

  • Losing a friend in a tragic accident (I only just realized I hadn’t fully let him go, so there were some more tears, and realizing life is too short to allow our fears to hold us back a minute longer!)
  • Losing my best friend- not like above, just rather bad timing and bad communication ( I had to own my part, and a few more tears)
  • Crying on stage and Periscope (oh yeah i did!)
  • Gaining 10kgs! Another change in 2016!
  • Not stopping the broadcast of my first webinar and throwing my hands in the air and declaring thank god that’s over, to my flatmate in his underpants! #rookierror and hilarious at the same time.
  • Having one webinar with no one show up live, but doing it anyway! 🙂
  • Almost running out of cash (before I dealt with my money blocks!)
  • Having to film my videos twice (but i learned a lot, including not to self tan the night before without gloves! )
  • Moving house, like 3 times!
  • Being let down by service providers, including one who still has my money (lesson learned!)
  • Technical issues at key moments (must be more patient!)
  • A few Business investment errors (wrong team members, FB Ads gone wrong etc)
  • Realising I still had a lot of ‘stuff’ to let go, but being brave enough to ‘go there’, not fun, but i did it! Yay!
  • Not taking a proper holiday despite all the travel, this is all changing next year!
  • Working way too hard before finally bringing on the right support.

Acknowledging the lows and the mistakes and the learnings takes courage, and I’d encourage you to do the same!  

Take some time to go there and answer some of these questions, get a quiet space and journal the answers, let whatever needs to come up be there, it’s ok and let it go;

  • What did you accomplish in 2015 year?
  • What are you most grateful for?
  • What were your biggest mistakes?
  • What do you need to learn from last year? What can be improved? What support do you need to make the changes you desire?
  • What else do you have to let go of before you truly step into 2016?

If it’s time to truly let this stuff go and set yourself up for success in 2016, I am here to guide and support you in your journey, I’ve been there and got the T-shirt and I want to help you get results even faster than I did!  Everything you’re dreaming of is possible!

At the end of 2015 I had a VERY special offer available, and mainly because I haven’t updated my pricing on my website yet, I’m offering it to you at this rate for one more week! On Sunday10th my prices are going up for the New Year, so if you’ve been thinking about working with me, now is your time, click here to book a time to talk with me now and get ALL the bonuses below.

Here’s to letting go and an amazing 2016!

Jo xxxx

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This is my fav professional pic of the whole year, by the amazing Wendy K Yalom!

P.S In 2016 I am dedicated to helping even more people. I have been booked out for much of this year and have reopened my 1:1 private mentorship.

When looking back over some of my client feedback, when you work with me you will feel;

  • More confident to ‘Be seen’ and get visible online
  • Feel great about raising, or maybe even doubling your rates– as you’ll finally know you’re worth it!
  • Super focused and efficient, we let go of anything making you procrastinate
  • Crystal clear on your target market, offer, packagesand road map for the coming year
  • Like atotal Pro on sales calls!
  • Totally supported

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Are you frustrated by lack of clarity? I might have the answer!

I’m still in Rome and loving it, my friend arrives tonight and I’m going to have two full days off to be a real tourist! 🙂

This week one thing that has repeatedly come up is frustration from lack of clarity. Lack of clarity will stop any well-meaning entrepreneur in their tracks, you literally can’t take another step forward, you’re stuck, because you don’t know what to do or how to do it. What’s my target market? What should I name my group? How should I set my prices? What exactly am I even offering? Ahhhh… it causes us to spin and bring a whole lot of drama into our business, often needlessly.

When these themes pop up I always ask myself what is it I don’t have clarity on myself? What do I need to learn or see? As my clients always reflect something in me. Luckily I am not asking the above questions but I did have some big decisions to make about my team, my new Group Program and new Podcast, and I had to ask what is my resistance about and what is stopping me getting clarity on these things?

The interesting thing is that I find a lack of clarity usually is just fear. Just fear she says! Yes, just fear. Yeah you know that little tiny problem we sometimes get!? Well the good news is once we figure out what’s on the other side and sort it out, the clarity usually comes pretty quickly!

Let me explain, ask yourself, what does the clarity allow me?

When I asked one client this this week the first answers were ‘Well, I’d grow my list, fill my programs and make more money’.

Doesn’t seem too bad, right?

But when I asked what else does that mean? She answered: ‘Well I guess it means more haters, more of those annoying emails from people on my programs complaining about tech issues, it would mean having to write more emails, I don’t like writing emails, I feel like I’m forcing myself, I’d have to sales funnels and I hate them as I don’t know if I’m doing them right, and I suppose it would take away my free time, I’m quite enjoying the time I have right now’.

Anything else? ‘Well I guess I’d have to be more visible‘ and what does that mean to you? ‘My family would see what I’m doing’.

Now we’re getting closer to the problem… And what would that mean? ‘Well they’ll judge me and they don’t understand, and I feel like they’re already getting distant… I might lose them‘.

Ahh now we have the problem, it had nothing to do with lack of clarity, or writing emails!

This girl was linking getting clarity and making money to losing her family, of course she was never going to allow herself to get the clarity, because she’s scared of losing those closest to her and who would want to lose their family? There’s not much point in having all that money if you’re alone right?

This is actually a much more common conversation than you might expect, we so often, have twisted rules and give certain things meanings we don’t even realize. But it’s soo much easier to see it in someone else!

Thankfully we identified it and changed it, before it drove her crazy or kept her spinning for years or worse still maybe she’d give up, angry and annoyed with herself….for only really loving her family. What a waste that would have been! There is always a solution to this stuff, and nothing makes me happier than helping my clients move through these issues, and clearing it out at a deep subconscious level and re-writing those old patterns and beliefs. None of this stuff, ever ‘makes sense’ and it’s hard to rationalize your way out of it, yes, awareness is the first step, but sometimes you have to work to break the story.

Although some people wouldn’t say lack of clarity or judgement worries are money blocks, to me they are, anything that stops you moving forward in your business and making the money you deserve is a money block and they can be cleared!

If any of this sounds familiar? I’m here to help! I’m currently taking on 1:1 clients, and looking for a few Rock stars who’re serious about this and ready to take their lives and business to the next level, perhaps you’re on the edge of something big, now is the time! Apply for a discovery call now.

Lots of love,
Ciao Jo  x



Are you falling into these common business pitfalls?

I’m now in Rome and I totally love this city, I have managed to catch up with a friend from when I lived in Bermuda and getting to spend the weekend with another one from there too, loving this travelling thing. But I have also been working and yesterday I spoke to 7 women that I’d never spoken to before, some had signed up for my Money Mindset Assessment and a few were Bonus calls I was doing for a friend’s Group program. I loved speaking to all these amazing women, and facilitated some amazing breakthroughs, complete with a few tears, a past life release and even me getting goosebumps, it was a powerful day!  

But I was struck by the similar stories they were all telling me and even using the exact same words.  As beautiful and unique as we all are, our issues and problems are so often very similar.  I was so fired up after my day I jumped on Periscope to address each of the common issues that had come up and some top tips on how to overcome them, I am so passionate about helping people reach their goals, it might have come across as a teeny bit of a rant, and yes I needed a glass of wine to calm down afterwards!!

I’d love for you to watch it and tell me if it resonates with you? If it does it might be time to book in for one of my FREE Money Mindset Assessments! Watch it here

Some of the topics covered included….

  • Will I know what to do with my clients once they sign up? Will I be able to deliver?
  • I feel like a fraud
  • What if they want their money back?
  • I’m scared they won’t get results, it’s a huge responsibility
  • I have a fear of being seen/visibility
  • I have a fear of charging
  • I am not fully being myself
  • I am not good enough
  • I feel overwhelmed
  • I’m procrastinating
  • I lack clarity
  • I lack confidence
  • Not being aligned with your goals (i.e. if they actually happened would you have a panic attack? if so they probably won’t happen!!!)

Watch it here

Lots of love,

Jo xx


Ciao from Florence: Men, Money & Mozzarella!

As you might know I packed up home and put everything in storage with the grand plan to work and travel all over the world, until I decide exactly where I’m supposed to stay for a while next!  I’ve been in Florence for almost 2 weeks, attending 2 Business courses, soaking up the atmosphere, indulging in the most amazing food, wine and even been on a few dates, it wasn’t until my friend said: “You’re just like Elizabeth Gilbert having your own little Eat, Pray, Love experience” that it made more sense, I watched the movie and read the book about 10 years ago and it captured my imagination, but I certainly wasn’t trying to recreate it, although I’ve been planning to go back to Bali for ages, maybe i’ll end up in India at some point too! 🙂   Does all this sound like a crazy fantasy? Well it’s all possible for you too– if it’s what you desire? I know it’s not for everyone, and who knows it might not be long until I want a proper base again!

But it hasn’t all been riding round Florence on the back of cute Italian guy’s Vespas! 😉 I am still super serious about my business and supporting my clients as I go. 

I attended the last live event of my year-long Business of coaching mastermind, and was honored to be asked on stage again to share my story and answer questions. This would truly have beenmy worst nightmare not that long ago, as being on stage used to cause everything to shake, my voice, my hands and even my legs, but I’m so glad I’ve gotten over all that to be able to share and help others with my story.

I have to say, one of the things I love about the Italians is that they have zero guilt over anything, they are totally unapologetic about everything in life, what they eat, drink and even smoke, who they love and what they do, they are passionate about everything and it’s infectious! I realized I have to bring even more of that into my business, have more fun doing it and feel zero guilt about it! That was actually one of the themes that came up on my course, there were a number of people asking how they can run their business when they have commitments to work, family, friends and still keep a balance but not feel guilty about how they spend their time.  It is so important to follow what is true for you and to know that doing what you love and building a business is not selfish, it’s actually really important. It’s important to be a good role model for your children (if you have them) and and to others that can ONLY hear the message from YOU.  You really don’t know who’s lives you touch with your message, even in that room in Florence I had people come up to me and tell me they had done my money blocks course and loved itor were inspired by my work, it truly blew me away. It was funny, one lovely lady, meeting me for the first time said she’d had me up on a pedestal, but having met me that was no longer the case!!, (what?!) she was like “you’re just a normal person”, and that’s the message here, I’m not special, I have just worked my ass off and made this happen, however, one of the main differentiators between those on that stage and the ones that weren’t was MINDEST, we all have done some serious work on our mindsets, money stories, and wealth consciousness. 

Because I am so passionate about this and don’t want anyone else to be held back from the success they deserve in their business, I have decided to offer a few free 20 min Money Mindset Assessments, so you can check if it’s a factor in your business.  You might be ready to find your first paying clients or even breaking through to your next big income goal, ready for your first $5 or $10k month or planning a launch (it can seriously mess with your head!!)? Unfortunately money blocks never 100% disappearand they usually crop back up when something changes, so even if you’ve done some work on them before, if you’re not earning what you want you probably still have them. If you’d like to check book in now for a Money Mindset assessment. Click here.

NOTE: This is not a discovery call, if you’d like to apply for one of them you can do that here

Lots of love,
Ciao Jo x



Are you people pleasing yourself broke?

Hi Everyone! I’m back in Scotland, visiting family and attending a 3 day boot camp before heading to Italy for 3 weeks! Yay!! Trying to earn the wine and pizza before I get there! 🙂 (Picture: bike ride at boot camp in the pouring rain!)

But today I want to talk about people pleasing or it’s slightly more extreme big brother, co-dependency, as it’s called in the coaching world and how it can literally be keeping you broke financially and mentally too.

We all know people pleasers, they’ll do anything for anyone else before themselves, because they don’t value themselves enough and are always trying to be liked and then often become passive aggressive and resentful about it!

Co-dependency relationships are a type of dysfunctional helping relationship where one person supports or enables another person’s addiction, poor mental health, immaturity, irresponsibility, or under-achievement. Among the core characteristics of codependency, the most common theme is an excessive reliance on other people for approval and identity.  Hmm sound familiar to anyone??

Before I started in this coaching world I’d never heard of co-dependency and was like, ‘I can’t be co-dependent I’m not in a relationship’…haha, oh so naive! You can be co-dependent with friends, colleagues, family, significant others and yes EVEN clients!!!  And that’s where the problems start!

I know you know I love to share, and here are a few big admissions from me…when I first started coaching

  • I was so invested in my clients results, I was allowing their results to define me, of course I still really care but now I know it’s not my responsibility!
  • I would take on clients who I knew where not my ideal clients, and then regret it- Now I only work with people who I am excited to work with and that I know I can help 100%.
  • I would coach at a time that suited them -not me, now I coach on Mondays and Wednesdays, and it works perfectly.
  • I would go over on time almost every session as I was trying to to over deliver – this ultimately stops people fully valuing your time, now I am much more aware of it and stick to my time.
  • I let clients cancel with less than 24 hours notice, against my client agreement, and now treat my agreement with the respect it deserves, after all it’s there for a reason. (if you don’t have one get one!)
  • I’d spend up to an hour and a half on a discovery call with someone who has already told me they have no money! I am not judging this, but they are not ready for a high-end Success coach! So now I have developed an application process, so I can decide ahead of time whether to grant someone a discovery call! BAM!! Check me out with my boundaries!!! 🙂

I’m glad I’ve gone through this process, as it’s so good to learn and grow and now I know what to look out for with my clients, but all of the above, have wasted my time, stopped me working with more ideal clients, kept me small or in low vibe.  NO LONGER!!

So if any of this resonates with you, maybe it’s time to rethink your boundaries, what is the aim of your behaviour? What is it costing you?  Get really clear on what you are willing to accept and where you are going to draw the line, and make sure you value your time!

Lots of love,
Jo x



How a night at the Casino helped explain how I run my business!

Did you think having your own business would be a lot more fun? Going for long lunches and hanging out with friends at the beach? I certainly did! Don’t get me wrong, I love what I do, but the reality is that we can be so focused on our business that everything else goes out the window. And then we actually stop receiving in our business because we are so focused on the mechanics and process and not the flow. 

I have recently been getting the message that I haven’t been having enough fun, in my business or personal life! It keeps coming up over and over again. And I’m like, I know, I know …I’ll get round to it..but I just need to get this next thing done…like writing this email to you lovely peeps! 🙂

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The Secret behind The Secret

Ever wondered why the The Secret or Law of Attraction doesn’t seem to work for everyone? If it really was that simple wouldn’t we all have everything we ever dreamed of and more? Have you ever tried to do it but it hasn’t worked? Or is manifesting the bad stuff easier, so you think it kinda works, but you’re not convinced?

I had been struggling for six months in my business and doing everything *right*, vizualizing, affirmations, thinking positively, writing down my goals, taking massive action, but it still wasn’t working and I was getting nowhere…until I discovered the power of clearing my money blocks, I had no idea I had so many subconscious niggling doubts that were sabotaging my every move! Fear of success, fear of failure, fear of change, fear of visibility, lack of clarity. And I was questioning , am I good enough? Do I really deserve it? Can I handle it? All these fears and doubts were causing Psychological Reversal , and were making my energy negative and run backwards, and undermining all my attempts at being positive! No wonder I couldn’t manifest anything except a parking ticket!  But thankfully I learned the REAL secret to The Secret, to allow me to effortlessly manifest anything. By simply making sure to remove all tail enders, they are the little thoughts after a positive statement that reverse it, all those little …yeah rights …but it’s not for you…it’s ok for everyone else…it didn’t work last time…but I don’t know HOW…i’ve tried everything…they must be better/smarter/more deserving than me. By removing them your conscious is aligned with who you are at a deep level and moving forward is so much easier!

No one needs to live constrained by limiting beliefs and be caught in a negative pattern of fear, doubt and stress, these beliefs you’ve learned over the years are so deep in your subconscious if you don’t purposely shift them with powerful breakthrough techniques such as EFT & NLP, it’s almost impossible to break the patterns, I know you want success and it’s possible for you! xx


Everything happens for a reason….even the worst things…

A year ago today I had an accident and injured my back, we were in a surf rescue boat in heavy surf and as we smashed over a wave I took the full force of it and compressed my lower back, with the adrenalin and fact we were still out there with huge waves, I didn’t realize how bad it was until the next morning when I could hardly get out of bed, and i thought, ‘oh sh!t, I’ve really done it this time!’.

After a few weeks and then months of it not really getting any better and countless physio, osteopath, doctor and chiropractic appointments, an x-ray and an MRI, I finally saw a Specialist who said it would take a year to get back to where I was and that seemed like an eternity!

I was getting really down and verging on depression, I’d cry when people asked how I was, as I felt like my life had grounded to a halt.  Before the accident, I had been doing so well, I had lost so much weight and regained my fitness, I was on a roll, even though I was still working long hours and stressed in my job, the accident stopped everything I identified with; I couldn’t exercise, so I wasn’t hanging out with my friends as much, as we trained together, I started gaining the weight back, as I was not training and I was also comfort eating, I was in pain, I couldn’t even work! I was ok walking and lying down but sitting was just so painful and long days at work were really holding up my recovery, so I was eventually put on half days by the doctor to help speed up my recovery.  I already found my job boring, stressful and mentally painful and now it was actually physically painful, i thought how can i possibly do this for the next 30 years when i can’t even make it past lunch time?

But now that I had so much time on my hands and for the first time in over 10 years, I thought ‘oh I actually have time to study something’ and then i discovered IIN (Institute for Integrative Nutrition) and started training to be a Health Coach, since that decision, my life has totally changed, I have been on such a crazy, amazing journey this year, and have done a number of other courses, changed my diet, my mindset, my beliefs and discovered EFT (which has really helped with the pain) and NLP.

It took a long time to even to get back into any kind of sport and to even begin basic Pilates with the physio took about 4.5 months,  I was scared I would hurt myself again, and frustrated by my lack of fitness and stamina. Even after 8 months I was scared to take a long-haul flight, as it involved so much sitting.

I truly believe if the universe hadn’t literally stopped me in my tracks when it did, I would still be in a job I hated, that was killing me mentally and physically. Remember everything happens for a reason and we always have to look for the positives and find what we can learn from every situation.

A year on, now I’ve hit that mile stone, although I still have to modify some of the things i do, like not sitting for too long, being careful how I pick things up and doing more Pilates than I ever have, I’m so happy to be finally lifting weights again, they make me feel strong, empowered and happy! My back injury is now just a story,  it’s no longer something that makes me sad, scared or is an excuse for for not doing things, it has shown me that no matter what is thrown at me I can overcome it and come out of the other side better and stronger. 2014 was a year of immense highs and lows, and I’m excited about what 2015 will bring! xx

P.S. A big thanks to all my friends, family and work colleagues that listened to the moaning and complaining and to all my awesome rehab team, who became friends, as I saw them so much! xx