I’m still in Rome and loving it, my friend arrives tonight and I’m going to have two full days off to be a real tourist! 🙂
This week one thing that has repeatedly come up is frustration from lack of clarity. Lack of clarity will stop any well-meaning entrepreneur in their tracks, you literally can’t take another step forward, you’re stuck, because you don’t know what to do or how to do it. What’s my target market? What should I name my group? How should I set my prices? What exactly am I even offering? Ahhhh… it causes us to spin and bring a whole lot of drama into our business, often needlessly.
When these themes pop up I always ask myself what is it I don’t have clarity on myself? What do I need to learn or see? As my clients always reflect something in me. Luckily I am not asking the above questions but I did have some big decisions to make about my team, my new Group Program and new Podcast, and I had to ask what is my resistance about and what is stopping me getting clarity on these things?
The interesting thing is that I find a lack of clarity usually is just fear. Just fear she says! Yes, just fear. Yeah you know that little tiny problem we sometimes get!? Well the good news is once we figure out what’s on the other side and sort it out, the clarity usually comes pretty quickly!
Let me explain, ask yourself, what does the clarity allow me?
When I asked one client this this week the first answers were ‘Well, I’d grow my list, fill my programs and make more money’.
Doesn’t seem too bad, right?
But when I asked what else does that mean? She answered: ‘Well I guess it means more haters, more of those annoying emails from people on my programs complaining about tech issues, it would mean having to write more emails, I don’t like writing emails, I feel like I’m forcing myself, I’d have to sales funnels and I hate them as I don’t know if I’m doing them right, and I suppose it would take away my free time, I’m quite enjoying the time I have right now’.
Anything else? ‘Well I guess I’d have to be more visible‘ and what does that mean to you? ‘My family would see what I’m doing’.
Now we’re getting closer to the problem… And what would that mean? ‘Well they’ll judge me and they don’t understand, and I feel like they’re already getting distant… I might lose them‘.
Ahh now we have the problem, it had nothing to do with lack of clarity, or writing emails!
This girl was linking getting clarity and making money to losing her family, of course she was never going to allow herself to get the clarity, because she’s scared of losing those closest to her and who would want to lose their family? There’s not much point in having all that money if you’re alone right?
This is actually a much more common conversation than you might expect, we so often, have twisted rules and give certain things meanings we don’t even realize. But it’s soo much easier to see it in someone else!
Thankfully we identified it and changed it, before it drove her crazy or kept her spinning for years or worse still maybe she’d give up, angry and annoyed with herself….for only really loving her family. What a waste that would have been! There is always a solution to this stuff, and nothing makes me happier than helping my clients move through these issues, and clearing it out at a deep subconscious level and re-writing those old patterns and beliefs. None of this stuff, ever ‘makes sense’ and it’s hard to rationalize your way out of it, yes, awareness is the first step, but sometimes you have to work to break the story.
Although some people wouldn’t say lack of clarity or judgement worries are money blocks, to me they are, anything that stops you moving forward in your business and making the money you deserve is a money block and they can be cleared!
If any of this sounds familiar? I’m here to help! I’m currently taking on 1:1 clients, and looking for a few Rock stars who’re serious about this and ready to take their lives and business to the next level, perhaps you’re on the edge of something big, now is the time! Apply for a discovery call now.
Lots of love,
Ciao Jo x