This is the first day of Spring or Fall depending where you are in the world, and there are only 4 months left in 2015 and it got me thinking about my goals and what I was going to achieve for the rest of the year. Are you where you thought you’d be by now? Some of my goals I’ve surpassed way beyond my own expectations, some amazing things have happened that weren’t even on my list and others haven’t quite come together, but that’s ok, I still have 4 months to go!!
I was at lunch with a lovely Scottish girl today and this quote that I heard from Tony Robbins came up, when I originally heard it at Business Mastery, it brought tears to my eyes, he said, ‘Hell on earth would be meeting the person you could have become!’Wow, powerful stuff!
It reminded me of a story my Mum told me, (we have a running joke and I usually finish her stories for her, as I’ve heard them a few times) it went something like this….she came home from school one day and said to my Grandmother, I got a B, imagine how well I could have done if I’d tried? The response: ‘Don’t let your father hear you say that or he’ll kill you’. My Mum has always said to me as long as you do your best, that’s good enough but it’s funny how patterns repeat.
I remember saying to myself, when I got my 2:1 Honours degree in Accounting and Finance, only a few points away from First class degree, imagine how well I could have done if I’d tried?! I never put my all into it, in hindsight probably because it wasn’t something I was passionate about, and I was always trying to figure out the minimum amount of work I could do to still get a good grade! (and yes my parents read my newsletters!) 🙂
But the scary thing is that I’ve occasionally found myself wondering the same thing in my business too. Yes, I’ve put in a huge amount of effort, hours and love into it, and yes I’m passionate about helping people but how good could it be if I’d tried? There have been the times when I’ve had a huge resistance to doing something important, procrastinated, self-sabotaged, and held myself back out of fear. Not written the post, not told people what I do, delayed replying to that email that I know could actually be a huge thing for my business, not asked for the feedback or help I needed, not admitted that I didn’t know what to do next, or that I felt stuck and scared. All of this just wasted precious time, and cost me way more than whatever *perceived pain* I was trying to protect myself from unconsciously.
I have decided I NEVER want to be haunted by the thought that I’ve wasted another minute, not stepped up to be the woman I know I can be, not helped those that needed me or inspired the people that needed to hear my message. enough is enough, I chose to not have any regrets or be held back by fear anymore and I want you to know that this is possible for you too. It’s literally a decision to never be available for anything less, to never endure hell on earth, to learn what you have to learn and take the opportunities presented and to NEVER THINK : I wonder how well I could have done if I’d tried?
Remember I’m always here if you need help, enjoy the rest of the week and please try!
Lots of love,